“ impressions are last impressions.”
Isn’t this the most brilliant line ever? I believe that a good first impression generally goes on to build a lasting and healthy relationship between people. On the other hand, a bad one almost instantly sabotages any further prospects. Here is a list of Top Ten Disasters that Delhi men commit on the First Date, that one should definitely avoid.
1.Choosing the wrong location
The number one mistake Delhi men make is this. You don’t want to take your date for a stroll in CP or Hauz Khas Village in this blistering heat or take her to the same old McDonalds. Pick a nice location, something according to her mood as well, and plan in advance. Delhi has a variety of locations that make for great venues for your date, just choose wisely!
2.Being Rude To Staff
Dear men, take note. There is nothing worse than being rude to service staff. Women are not going to be particularly fond of someone who is rude to a waiter. From your Delhi way of signalling the waiter by that “Tch, tch” to your “Tu janta nahin mera baap kaun hai?”- Its all very annoying. So if you have any issues, you should put them across in a polite manner. Talk to the concerned staff and let them know what bothers you, instead of going the usual Delhi way and picking a fight. It is not in good taste, and leaves your date with the impression that you are arrogant.
3.Dressing too casually
Making some effort to dress up for a date is not very difficult. A decent outfit according to the place you’re going to and a nice fragrance will do. Women notice and like men who make an effort to look good. I know it’s part of your Delhi swag, but please ditch those slippers that you wear everywhere or the t-shirt you’ve been wearing two days in a row. Wear a freshly laundered item of clothing and smell good. As simple as that!
4.Prematurely using terms of Endearment
Terms of endearment are a great way to tell someone you adore them, but if used on the first date itself, they might just spell disaster. Take some time and get to know each other well. Even if the date is going pretty well, you must avoid using those baby-babu- jaanu things because you might scare off your date. Don’t Use these words unless you are sure your date would be comfortable enough. You don’t want to embarrass yourself, do you?
5.Stalking her social media
Delhi dudes have stalker skills that can give the FBI a run for its money. But kindly avoid sending friend requests on facebook even before the date or immediately after it. Do not start stalking her on every possible social media platform and creep her out.
Bragging seems to be the favourite thing for Delhi guys. They literally cannot stop bragging about themselves. Stop. Please don’t do that. Stop talking about your Kabaddi skills or your pappa ki Audi that you so proudly show off. Guys who are so full of themselves kill the attraction and interest. Keep the conversation back and forth and avoid talking too much about yourself. It might be interesting to you, but it sure isn’t to her.
7.Negative Body languae
Make eye contact, and don’t check out people of the opposite sex (this is a no-brainer). Delhi men are notorious for this particular habit. Yes the girl on your adjacent table might be a complete totta, but you’re here to get to know your date, and eyeing other people will make her question your interest. It is impolite as well. Keep your attention on her and you’ll leave her with a good impression of you.
8.Asking personal questions
Discussing her ex-boyfriends or other past dating experiences is not something to do on the first date. It is a sensitive topic and you must refrain from bringing it up on the first date. You are here to make her smile, not interrogate her. Please suppress your burning curiosity for a while until you both are comfortable enough to talk about it.
9.Being too generous with compliments
Delhi men, keep your affection level on the first date in check. A compliment or two is lovely and will make her feel good, but any more than that, and you will come across as in insincere. Also, avoid sounding fake and corny. You don’t want to earn the reputation of a typical Delhi flirt who throws around compliments at women. They wouldn’t take this fraaandship any further.
10.Coming across as too desperate
Delhites, you have to keep your desperation under control. Nothing ruins a date faster than coming across as too desperate. Avoid your urge to grab her hand because its not acceptable and will scare her off. Trust me, I’ve been there. Its uncomfortable and inappropriate. Give her time and don’t jump at her on the first date. Simple. So that sums up my list. By no means is it directed at every Delhi guy, these are just the most commonly occurring mistakes as observed by women.
To conclude, avoid the above mentioned mistakes and keep it light and playful. Good luck, fellas!